Alright, first complete solo episode, and I’m excited! Thank you so much for all of the support on my last mini episode on coming back. I am so excited for what this space has to bring after so much time off.
A lot has happened since I stopped doing the podcast – Our world went through a global pandemic, I had a baby, Kennedy Soleil. She is exactly what I didn’t know I needed, and she completes our family. But let me tell you that going from 2 to 3 kids completely rocked our world. Any time or energy we had working full time jobs with 2 kids went out of the window with 3. A few people told me that going from 1 to 2 was the hardest, and I have to strongly disagree. 3 kids is another level of crazy. Maybe it was having 2 under 2, But we are just working on surviving every day. One of the most exciting things that happened is that Robby had a career change that is local, so he is no longer traveling 5+ days a week. This has been huge for our family. To those out there that have partners who travel for work, or are gone long periods of time, I’m praying for you, because that shit is hard. During the pandemic, but before I found out I was pregnant with Kennedy, I decided to go back to work full time. I ended up starting the job while I was pregnant, and now the girls started going to a sitter during the week. This is where I got my idea for my coming back podcast.
At one of our events, during a session, the owner was talking about the GE spot. When I heard this, I cringed, but it’s not what you think.. it’s the Good Enough spot. Now, just to get this out of the way, the only time you should NOT find your Good Enough Spot, is in the bedroom.. Or dining room table, or couch, or wherever you’re doing the nasty – you should never settle for good enough here! If someone is only hitting the “good enough” spot in the bedroom, its time to level up. You can’t live your life like that. There you go, my sex advice for the week.
But seriously.. Are you using your good enough spot in your life. I’m not just talking about in some parts of your life, I’m talking all aspects of your life. Personal, Professional, parenting, Mom life, relationships, housework, a new business venture. All of it. Except sex.
Where and when do you land on good enough? Do you even know what that looks like for you?
Ok, right now, I want you to take a second and think when do you tell yourself “You know what, this is good enough?” or “this is as good as it’s going to get.” Those are the Good Enough Spots. Those are the times when you say I am at my capacity. This is all I can do, all I can handle, or all I can give, and it is good enough. When I really started thinking about it, I realized how hard on myself I was for just being “good enough”. I didn’t think of it as a positive, it was almost a negative, like well, thats good enough. I can’t do any more. I suck. Someone else would probably be better. I’d be better if..
There was just a lot of self doubt when it came to the good enough spot, because I always felt like I failed.
Since realizing I need to embrace this GE spot in my life, I’m improving. It’s helping. I’ve turned the negative thought process into a positive one. Now, I strive to get to good enough. If I strive for perfection, I will fail. If I strive for good enough, I’m going to succeed.
This is why I started doing the podcast again, because if I wasn’t doing it, it wasn’t good enough. Now, I sat here coming up with every excuse not to relaunch this podcast. I wasn’t going to have time to redesign the cover photo, I wasn’t going to have time to get the perfect relaunch instagram pic, my website podcast page wasn’t finished, my hair isn’t short and blonde anymore like the picture, I haven’t hit my goal weight yet. When I say I came up with every reason I mean it. I mean, it’s a podcast for fucks sake, you can’t even see me and these are the reasons I was giving not to do it. It’s not perfect. It’s kind of a mess, and I love it.
This was an area in my life that I needed to push myself to. Not doing the podcast, wasn’t good enough. But doing it with the equipment I had, is good enough. Using whatever current pictures I have for the podcast cover, is good enough. Launching it without a new intro, is good enough. Using what I learned before and trying to make it better, is good enough.
I know now that I am never going to have the best sound quality podcast. I know that I am not going to always have the newest equipment. But I am going to work with what I have. I’ve realized that I don’t need to speak to everyone, just someone. My Good Enough spot is going to be enough for someone in this space, and thats all I can ask for.
Your Good Enough spot can and will change. But this week I want to challenge you to land there more, and feel good about it. Stop being so hard on yourself. You’re the one that sets those unrealistic standards that no one expects you to hit. You are your hardest critic. Not your kids, not your parents, not your friends. You. I get it, I am too. When I say these things, I’m talking to myself. I know that I am a work in progress. I know that there are things I need to work on. But awareness for me is the first step. Being aware of when and where I am the most happy in my life – and its being good enough.
Did you originally tell yourself you were going to workout 30 min but made it 20? It’s good enough.
Did you set out a goal to organize the house but only did the junk drawer? It’s good enough
Are you putting off starting a business because not everything is super perfect and you think everyone will know that you didn’t proofread your launch email that extra 27 times? Launch it!
Honestly, when someone tells me there’s a spelling error, I’m just glad they read it!
Holding yourself to standards that only you set for yourself is basically impossible, because you probably haven’t outlined what success looks like. You can’t win if you don’t know what winning looks like.
Now, I’m not saying to be lazy and make constant excuses for why things can’t or don’t get done. But there is a difference between making excuses and doing what’s good enough.
Since figuring out that this is where I am the best me, I’ve started letting people know. Now, something I’m personally working on, is apologizing for only being able to do or hit my good enough. So I’ll say things like “I’m sorry, but I am not able to cook, but I’d be happy to pick something up at the store for the potluck”. We shouldn’t have to apologize for those things, and again, something I’m working on as a person. But letting people know I am doing the best I can, has helped me accept my Good Enough spots on so many more levels.
Whether it is the kids school, or holiday events, the kids birthday parties. I mean, how much pressure do we put on ourselves for our kids birthday parties? We think we have to have the perfect pinterest party, when in reality… our 7 year old doesnt even know what the fuck pinterest is.
When I asked my son what he wanted for his party this is what he said:
-A bounce house
-his cousins and friends
I mean, stop it right now… I can do all of those things. That list, is the guideline for my good enough birthday party. He doesn’t want or need anything else. He doesn’t need the themed food labels, or the perfect table cloth, the balloon arches, or perfect white bounce house that you want because it will photograph better.
I want to run my business like I aspire to run my life, in the Good Enough spot, because here is where I find myself to be the most happy. Here is where I get the most done, where I am the best friend, the best mom, the best wife, and best me. When I’m not striving to be perfect, but just good enough.
Ahh, that was fun! It wasn’t perfect, it wasn’t practiced, but it was good enough!